The Overthinker's Lens

Love is Just For Fools! Part 4: The Conclusion .... After reading till here you might be wondering, Shivani , distinguishing between attachment and love is fine. But what about the whole “love is just for fools” thing? Well, once I figured out the difference between love and attachment, one thing became crystal clear: love literally shuts down the logical part of your brain. You start doing weird things, behaving in the dumbest ways possible—and more. You don’t even need that person to love them; just the idea of them is enough. You begin to believe in things you once laughed at. You’re willing to wait a lifetime for them, even knowing deep down they’ll never be yours. They become the only meaningful part of your life. Everything else? It starts to feel pointless and unworthy of your time. And when love fully takes over your mind, you start acting like a fool—and no one can pull you out of that phase, not even the person you love. You worship them, no matter how they treat you. Love...

Love is Just For Fools! Part 3 ....      In this complex journey of love and attachment, one important lesson I have learned is the fundamental distinction between attachment and love. Attachment occurs when someone consistently fulfills your needs—when they provide care, affection, and support. As a result, you become reliant on that individual to maintain your sense of contentment. Dependency is the initial stage of attachment. When you begin to depend on another person for emotional fulfillment, seeking the pleasure or dopamine that they provide, attachment takes root, and it only deepens with time.      However, when that person ceases to provide the same level of emotional support, doubts begin to arise. You may find yourself questioning whether the love is fading. But in truth, love does not fade—obsession does. As obsession diminishes, efforts tend to wane, leaving room for overthinking and self-blame, as you may feel that you’ve fallen in love with...